Authentic Relating

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Do Our Thoughts Create Our Reality? Debunking and Reowning the Magical Thinking of New-Age, Self-Help Wish Fulfillment The simple statement that “our thoughts create our reality” has gained a lot of popularity over the past few decades, particularly in spiritual-but-not-religious circles. It acts as a mantra for people who genuinely…

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Checking Our Assumptions Prolonging the “honeymoon” through openness and wonder Our Assumptions Often Lead to Unnecessary Suffering I was hosting a group at my house and a guy showed up who seemed callous and insensitive. He wasn’t reading social cues and he kept treating my cat unfairly. I was angry…

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Exchange “Shy” for “Shine” A Quick Trick to Deepening Happiness When it is Already There In the past two days I’ve gotten to connect with two people who exhibited shyness over feeling positive emotions. I am fairly certain everyone has had this experience before. Rationally this does not make too…

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What does “Interesting” REALLY mean? Getting to Love Someone Better Through Precision in Language I often hear people say, “I think that’s really interesting.” What does that mean? Interesting like noteworthy, exciting, or fascinating? Interesting like disgusting, confusing, disappointing? Do you want to know more, do you feel cautious or…

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